How the Girl Scouts Made Me a Better Submissive Feminist
I grew up with the Girl Scouts. I became a member when I was seven, and I eventually got a Lifetime membership. I rose through the ranks and was first employed for the Girl Scouts of Connecticut when I was sixteen. I worked with them for six years and learned so much about myself in the process. Looking back, a lot of basic properties of scouting can be found in different areas of kink. The following is my account of how the Girl Scouts made me a better kinkster.
I loved earning badges, and I earned more than I can even describe throughout the years. The way it works is, there is a book of badges with set criteria on how to earn each one. It makes you extremely goal-oriented, as anything you do can contribute to some kind of badge-work. This ingrained rules and tasks into me, and I crave that in every D/s I am in as an adult. Doing tasks is something that not every submissive enjoys, but for me, tasks are a form of structure to my relationship(s) and the sense of accomplishment I get from completing them makes me feel like a kid getting my merit badges all over again.
They even have BDSM merit badges, as pictured above—no, not the Girl Scouts. [Image Source]
If the Girl Scouts does anything for you, it strives to make you a more-empowered woman. It often recognizes that women are oppressed in our patriarchal society, and it really works hard to give women an edge in the real world. Girls Scouts teaches strength and resourcefulness, and for some of us, we really take that shit to heart.
Being a good submissive, to me, is having a good understanding of self-worth. This blog is dedicated to the dualities that are feminism and submission, and I think the core beliefs of my empowerment come from the Girl Scouts. They teach you to be a better woman, to have confidence—and what greater pleasure is there than having a submissive partner who is confident in their abilities to be the very best?
The Girl Scouts is an extremely diverse group of people. While the majority of members are cis-women, men can also be adult members. In addition, trans* members are fully accepted into the community. The first trans* friend I ever had was a counselor at the camp I work at, and the first trans* person I ever met was one of our trainers from the home office of the organization. In addition to gender diversity, there was also a huge diversity in race, class, and abilities/disabilities. The cool thing about Girl Scouts is that they give away government grants so kids who can’t normally afford camp can have these empowering experiences. When I was a Unit Leader up at camp, I cared for more kids in the system than not. Many of them were kids living in poverty, living with disabilities, or foster children with parents in jail or who had abandoned them. I cared for blind girls, deaf girls, girls in wheelchairs, and girls with severe mental disorder. The cool thing is, though, that none of the kids really noticed. They were all equals while they were there and they became close, sometimes lifetime, friends.
In addition to race, class, and gender, there is also a huge diversity of sexual minorities in the Girl Scouts. Growing up, the vast majority of counselors at camp were bisexual or lesbian. I learned about lesbians at camp and I met my first two girlfriends at camp. It was the first aspect of my life that accepted me as a queer person. When I was too scared to tell my friends and family, I knew I could be free to hold my girlfriend’s hand at camp without being judged. This really taught me about acceptance and an openness to diversity from a young age, and looking back on it now, I’m so thankful I have those experiences that let me be open to my diverse partners, as an adult.
I recently joked around with my partner that Scouts make the best Dominants because they learn all the cool knots for bondage at an early age. It’s true! My first experience with bondage happened when I was working at camp. Our “Camp Craft Specialist” was trying out some knots before he taught the girls and instructed me to put my hands up. I did, and he slipped a rope with two holes around my hands. Imagine my surprise when he pulled each end and dropped me to my knees, holding my hands up in a handcuff knot. I was shocked, to say the least, but I made him teach me how to do that right away.
The partner I engage in water bondage with in the summers is an Eagle Scout. He’s the highly devoted one who asks for rope for his birthday and his partner buy it without giving it a second thought. But surely enough, when they leave, he has me hogged-tied in his pool, dragging me around in the water in the name of “practice.”
The Great Outdoors
Being a Scout means having to put down the XBOX controller, suck it up, and go outside. On the bright side, most of us love the outdoors. I spent the majority of my life exploring camp—hiking through the woods, geocaching, and finding the best areas for privacy. I grew a tolerance for mud, bugs, and bats. Not being afraid of the great outdoors means opening a world of possibilities for play. You can take me to a remote location and tie me to a tree and beat the ever-living shit out of me and I’ll love it. I won’t complain about the moss touching my leg or the mosquitoes being biting me (I’m mostly immune to them, anyhow), I’ll just enjoy it for what it is. We make better partners for public play and exhibition because the woods simply aren’t scary to us. Sex is just plain fun out in the wilderness, don’t you think?
First aid is essential when you work with kids. The Girl Scouts of Connecticut paid for my training with the American Red Cross to get certified in first aid, AED, and CPR. It’s also one of the basic badges you earn as a kid. There’s always a huge focus on safety whenever you do anything with Scouting. This makes us really good at aftercare. Whether it’s a physical injury from a scene (abrasions, cuts, or accidental sprains, etc) or the need for emotional support, the Scouts have it covered. We’re trained not only in physical problems but also how to deal with a frightened child. We’re taught how to calm people down after trauma and how to help them get the best care for their physical injuries. We’re just really good at aftercare, and we’ll always ready for it. It wouldn’t surprise me if former Scouts who are now into BDSM have their own kits for aftercare. Being prepared is the Boy Scout motto, after all!
I wish I did that in my girl scouts day.